The abundance of options greatly influences how people approach dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge, as well as life in general. For example, most men don't have the luxury of abundant options; this privilege is reserved for the very top of men's dating profiles. These top profiles can secure dates every weekend, the men many women 'date' on dating apps, but they often struggle to make them 'commit.' Why would they, when they have a pool of women vying for their attention?
On the flip side, women often have so many options that they filter potential matches based on the smallest flaw, in pursuit of the elusive 'top guy' we just mentioned. They may not realize that the same 'top guy' has multiple options himself. In a way, it's a vicious cycle, especially in today's age where many people's egos are inflated. Many people confuse those willing to engage in casual encounters with those looking for a committed relationship.
In this blog post, we will delve deeper into this phenomenon. And if you're skeptical, take a look at the image below
As a Man
It's incredibly important to have a well-crafted profile with outstanding pictures—I can't stress this enough. Setting yourself apart from other men is essential to have an abundance of options. When you find a steady stream of matches coming your way, it changes your mindset and makes you more attractive on a whole different level. Unfortunately, most men are not at this level, especially when it comes to their picture selection. When you only get one match a week, desperation can quickly set in, leading to attempts that don't work in your favor, such as writing lengthy bios or using extravagant pickup lines.
The effort you need to put into your bio and messaging varies greatly, depending on how the other person perceives your profile. If you have an excellent profile that conveys someone who has options, you'll have to put in less effort.
For example, let's look at my stats over 52 days. My match rate is pretty decent; I match with more women than the average man. But what does that truly mean? It means I basically had a date lined up for every weekend during those 52 days. I mention this not to brag, but to illustrate that it can be challenging to juggle more dates unless you're open to weekdays. This results in me putting in less effort. There's always a fine line between appearing laid-back and desperate.
When I have so many chats, do I really have the time to craft a unique pickup line based on each profile? No, that takes too much time. However, my pictures convey this message as well. They are high-quality, though there's room for improvement. My initial message might be laughed at by many, but it works for me because of how my profile is perceived. If one connection doesn't work out, it doesn't matter; I have the next one lined up. If one has a big red flag, it's not a problem; I have plenty more women eager to engage in conversation.
It's liberating in a unique way. That's why I always advise people to put in a lot of effort into their pictures, create a lighthearted and concise bio, avoid providing information that could disqualify your profile before a match, and not overdo it when texting. Banter and flirting are great—definitely do that. But don't become a person who tries too hard, it's anything but sexy.
These are the aspects we delve into when you work with us—the things we consult and help you improve in your profile.
As a women
This is a woman in her 30s, reflecting after 24 hours on Bumble.
Now, after reading what I've said, can you see why so many women don't put any effort into their profile, pictures, or when they try to message? They have so many options. If you don't engage with them, they have 10 other guys waiting - guys they might not want because they aren't at the top, but the option is there.
Unfortunately, this kind of abundance has more negatives than positives. The obvious positive is being able to window-shop for your perfect man, but whether he will commit to you is a different question, often than not. That's not always the case.
Having so many options means they can swipe left for the most trivial reasons, like a non-pleasing t-shirt in one of your pictures or mentioning something like gaming in your bio. Or even simply mentioning the wrong star sign can disqualify you before you even get to the 'chat.'
But the downsides are the paradox of choice. While it's great to have so many options, the feeling of 'the grass is greener on the other side' is always there.
It's important to be aware of the ego inflation that might happen when there are so many options available. Just because you have a lot of possible matches doesn't suggest that any of them will result in a long-term relationship. It's crucial to be picky but also open-minded to various personality types and to avoid ignoring someone who might not precisely fit your ideal criteria.
See the real reason why women swipe right only 1% of the time, right?
Conclusion
In the world of online dating, the abundance of options significantly shapes how individuals approach popular dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and OkCupid. For men, having a wide array of options often hinges on creating a well-crafted profile with exceptional photos. This can shift their mindset and make them more appealing to potential matches. However, many men do not have the luxury of abundant options, which can lead to feelings of desperation and misguided efforts when their matches are scarce.
On the other hand, women often find themselves with an overwhelming surplus of choices, causing them to meticulously filter potential matches based on even the slightest imperfections in their pursuit of the elusive "top guy." This abundance of options can create a cycle of indecisiveness and dissatisfaction, fueled by inflated egos and unrealistic expectations.
The key takeaway is that while having numerous options may seem enticing, it can also lead to the paradox of choice. It is essential to be discerning yet open-minded when seeking meaningful connections. Striking a balance between being selective and being receptive to various personality types is crucial.
Ultimately, it is vital to remember that the quantity of matches does not necessarily translate into successful long-term relationships. Whether you are a man or a woman navigating the realm of online dating, our advice is to put effort into curating an appealing profile, maintain a lighthearted and concise bio, avoid sharing disqualifying information, and strike a balance between engaging banter and genuine connection. Finding success in online dating goes beyond simply having options; it lies in forging meaningful connections that surpass superficiality.
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